I believe in the case of cheeting that blaim always rest suarely on the shoulders of the cheater.. be it male or female. I have a HUGE issue with cheaters, maybe more then any other pet peeve. Did their mistresses have a choice? Sure they did. I have an insanely gorgous model/fitness trainer/massage therapist/english hottie who has made it clear he'd like to be my friend with benefits.. more benefits less friend.. and sadly I have had to turn him down because he has a girlfriend. A girlfriend he's planning on ending things with supposedly but a girlfriend nonetheless. Now a woman with less self control would have reasoned "he's gonna end it anyway, it's only a matter of time" and lost herself in his steamy green eyes but isn't that how most affairs begin? with people reasoning to themselves all the ways it's not wrong and hurtful? I would never knowingly overstep that bounds and this fella has outright asked me why do I care if some woman I don't know gets hurt.
Lets all stop and think about that question for a min. Why care if your actions would cause someone you don't know to get hurt? Where would society be if there weren't people in this world that didn't care about all those unknown faces? Where would we be if we put our own self gratification before all those unknown faces? Wars that maintain freedom would have never taken place. Laws like our ADA, which strive for equality, would have never passed. Woman's very right to vote came of other women caring about the unknown faces of there sisters! So yes the blaim rests squarely on the shoulders of the cheaters.. but my question is: woman out there what has happened to us that we've stopped caring about each other?
I see woman my age selling themselves at parties like pieces of meat. And woman who never open their mouths to disagree with a male because they don't want ot be a "bitch". I see women who plaster on a smile and blow rainbows out their ass constantly never talking about anything of substance or daring to have an opinion because thats not what turns the male head. I see women who put up with cheating bastards in their life because they provide. I see these things and all i can think of is the woman sufferage leaders.. we've gone backwards not forwards. Some woman say that we fought for the right to be free sexual beings.. but are we? Ladies when we shave every blessed thing and curl and flatten hair and squeeze our bodies into uncomfortable clothes and make out with each other (when we're most certainly hetero) for attention, is that sexual freedom? When we' re too busy perfecting our lap dance instead of perfecting our relationships is that sexual freedom?It embaresses me as a woman and pisses me off because now suddenly when i refuse to flash a stranger my tits, and when i disagree without compromise with a man, when i'm more concerned about building a relationship then seducing.. i'm no fun.. i'mmmm a bitch.
NOW is a joke. Feminism is a joke because we've made it that way. Mixed messages ladies and I say this as a female that gives in and shaves every blessed thing and worries and fusses bout her hair but I have moments of clarity when the fog of beauty standards lifts.. when I look at myself in the mirror and wonder what the hell I'm doing. Before we can focus on subgroups "disabled" "nondisabled" women's rights let's remember the basics!
"Perfect only in her imperfection"
