Posted on: Sat, Jun 13 2009 5:58 PM
Posted by: BMWgirl
Posts: 675
Just try to ignore him-the way I'd look at it is only 15 weeks, twice a week. From your post it sounds like this guy may want effect your self concept or make some point to either you or the class. Even know his intentions be good-you don't need that! Thus, do not feed into it by telling him any more than you have to.If he asks stuff that is in no way relevant to the accommodations needed for his class, be real short
.Every one has their own threshold of what they can brush off and what they can't. If this guys actions cross yours you have two options. One, meet with him in office hours to discuss it. Or go to your colleges disability center and talk to them. If you have a counselor at your college to coordinate your accommodations, as I did, this would be the perfect person to talk to about it. Given that, the counselor's professional, as mine were in college, and would just lay out your options. If your school doesn't have disability resources dept, or you don't get along with em, every school has some channels for both support of diversity and to handle complaints. Go to either the counseling center or the Women's center to get refereed to the right department. Just know that taking either of the two options may escalate it-so if the guy's not doing anything to really make it hard-you may want ignore-it's a totally subjective judgment call!!!
It was my experience the higher I got in my education the easier it was for me to get both what I needed and the more choices I had to make it easier on myself. For example by 12th grade I tried to pick my classess based on who taught them-not an option for a 6th grader.
Once I hit college I thought oh good if I get a prof that's really hard to deal with I have the option of dropping the class! I never had to do that! In college, the closest I came to maybe I should file a complaint and fight my grade was due to me test at an alternate location, I didn't receive a final review sheet in a class I was really struggling to pass. I ended up flunking the course and I felt maybe I had grounds on unequal access to information. I decided not to pursue it, cause the prof side had my grades were crappy all semester. I just re-took class, my next prof for it was a great help to me. It was the only subject where I just was having such such trouble. Re-took it, used one of my three gro's, life went on. Which is the worst case scenario if a prof lack of accommodating one hinders success in course. And really, in my life, wasn't that bad-shit happens life goes on.
First year I had a minor despute with my one prof over a presentation, instead of doing a ten page paper and a presentation-she just told me to write a 15 page paper cause she couldn't understand me. Didn't feel that was fair cause I would rather do the chore of speaking to the class than writing an extra five pages. I told me counselor, aka my lawyer, I wanted to present not write extra, she backed me up and it wasn't a big deal. Day of the presentation I thought this could be a repeat of my 7th grade study skills class, I get up to do a little speech, teacher says I can't understand you, sit down, shut up-you get a zero. In contrast to that my college presentation, with the hesitant prof, went fine!
I relished the normalcy of relations with my college prof''s in comparison to what I went through in both middle school and high school. Once, in college this one prof was weird, so I had to ask him something about can we hand in assignment in class or does it need to be dropped off to his office. My motivation for asking was logistics. It was 100 degrees and I was trying to save myself wheeling, in that if I had to drop it, I'd do so when I was in that building. He says to me whatever, then the next class he won't accept it. Told me to drop it off. So I was wheeling, in the heat, going compared to the stuff I've been through, this is typical, in that every student has profs they like, profs they don't, to me in the moment typical felt damm good!!!!! Now again, some may feel that my prof's refusal to try and understand me crossed the line and would cause them to complain to either the dept, or disability servicces. I didn't, I felt it was a normal dynamic and that's what I loved about college, it was set up to give me a normal experience with the same built in protections that were granted to any other student. Whereas, I found my K to 12 experience to be very punitive of my wanting that normal student experience, on both the part's of my teachers and the CST. It was flipped flopped, middle school the teachers were more of a problem then the CST, in HS the CST posed the biggest problem in both lack of protection of my rights and being punitive..College was paradise, and afforded me more options if I had a problem!
Don't sweet the small shit~good luck!
