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  • permalinkUpdate for April 2009

    KatDucDuk

    Posted on: Fri, May 15 2009 6:40 PM

    The following is the update I sent out to the Kissability mailing list on April 30, 2009. (Yes! There's an official mailing list! Contact me if you'd like to be on it; I'll also continue posting the mailings here.)  

    Hello, everybody,

    I'm afraid I don't have anything very new or specific to report, because most of my work on the project this month has consisted of copying and pasting everyone's questionnaire answers into a single document and color-coding them, so that I can easily compare and contrast the answers and search for particular quotes and topics.

    Why has this taken such a long time? Well, in part it's because I have a full-time day job, so I can work on Kissability stuff only on evenings and weekends. I appreciate your patience in light of this fact. But, more importantly, it's because I'm working with nearly 150,000 words of your input. The document is 342 pages!

    Of course, as I wrote last month, the Kissability book will not simply consist of all of your questionnaire answers-- I'll organize many of them into short chapters, in different formats and on different topics.  As much as possible, I'll use your own original words; I'm even planning to title each chapter with a fitting quote from a respondent. So far, I have five specific ideas for chapters, and more ideas will arise as I work.

    I've also come into (online) contact with several more people, in addition to the questionnaire respondents, whom I would like to contribute to the project through more specific interviews, because they have unique perspectives or levels of expertise on particular topics.  

    Have a great month!

    Katherine Duke
    Project Creator
    katherinedukewriting@gmail.com 
    Katherine Duke
  • permalinkUpdate for Summer 2009

    KatDucDuk

    Posted on: Mon, Sep 7 2009 2:50 PM

    The following is the update I sent out to the Kissability mailing list on September 7, 2009. (Yes! There's an official mailing list! Contact me if you'd like to be on it; I'll also continue posting the mailings here.)   

    I hope everyone has had a great June, July, and August (that's summer for me; I realize it's winter for those of you below the Equator).

    Most of the work I've done on the Kissability Project this summer has been to answer my own questions: to think about and write down my own responses to the questionnaire. After much thought, I've decided not to actually include my own answers in the Kissability book. In part, this is because I don't want to give the impression that my answers are "right" and anyone who disagrees with me is "wrong". The spirit of the project is to present a wide variety of feelings, opinions, and personal experiences, each of which is a valid part of the overall picture. If I, as the editor, include my own answers, this might go against that spirit.

    But the main reason that I don't want to include my own answers is that I can't have the same degree of anonymity as the other respondents. Because I'm the editor of the book, all of my friends and family will want to read it, and even if I were to use a false name for my answers, it would be easy for them to figure out which answers were mine.

    However, I do plan to include an introduction that explains my perspective, and some of my ideas and opinions will inevitably come through in the ways I choose to edit and arrange the book. So I felt it was important that I reflect upon and write down my own positions on each of the issues I asked everyone else about.

    The process of answering the very looooong questionnaire has given me renewed appreciation for the dedication and honesty of all of you who have contributed your answers. Once again, I thank you very much.

    Katherine Duke
    Project Creator
    katherinedukewriting@gmail.com

     

    Katherine Duke
  • permalinkRe: Contribute to Kissability: A Project...

    KatDucDuk

    Posted on: Sat, Nov 7 2009 11:28 AM

    The following is the update I sent out to the Kissability mailing list on November 7, 2009. (Yes! There's an official mailing list! Contact me if you'd like to be on it; I'll also continue posting the mailings here.)    

    Happy November, everyone!

    I'm pleased to report that, after two years of collecting, reading through, and sorting hundreds of pages of input from dozens of respondents, I've finally begun arranging some of the material into chapters for the Kissability book. I've completed a draft of the first chapter (though it will probably not be first in the order the chapters will appear in the book).

    This chapter consists of selected questions and answers from just one person's questionnaire, and its title is-- as every chapter's title will be --a phrase quoted from the person's responses. I'll refrain from writing the title here, as it contains an expletive that some people might find objectionable. But this raises the point that, yes, I will be including some "strong language" in the book. My intent is not to offend anyone, nor necessarily to express my own approval or disapproval of particular words, but rather to stay true to the variety of ways in which the respondents expressed themselves.

    So far, I have specific ideas for at least four more chapters (including one on language itself). Some of these will tell the story of one person, while others will bring together the thoughts of many respondents. I'm sure that even more chapter ideas will come to me as I work.

    Also, to supplement the original questionnaire, which was for individuals to answer, I wrote up a questionnaire to be answered by a particular married couple, in which both the husband and the wife have physical disabilities. I haven't received this couple's responses yet, but I hope to soon, as I think it's important to include the perspectives of multiple people together from within romantic and sexual relationships.

    Best wishes for the upcoming holiday season,

    Katherine Duke
    Project Creator
    katherinedukewriting@gmail.com

    Katherine Duke
  • permalinkRe: Contribute to Kissability: A Project...

    teacherspet1

    Posted on: Tue, Nov 10 2009 1:16 PM

    Have you thought about doing some research in an adult day care setting?  There are many young adults experiencing these issues.  You may want to contact one and possibly interview a few for your project.

  • permalinkRe: Contribute to Kissability: A Project...

    KatDucDuk

    Posted on: Fri, Nov 13 2009 3:45 PM

    That's a good idea. I've always been aware that one of the limitations of this project is that, so far, I've done it entirely online, so the only people who've been able to participate are those who have computer skills and Internet access. The good thing about doing it online, though, is that participants have greater anonymity and more of a sense of control over what to share with me and what not to, which I think makes people feel more comfortable. If I were to go into a group home or something and speak with people face-to-face, it might make everybody feel shy and awkward (and I'm a pretty shy person myself).  

    I'll think about it...

    Katherine Duke
  • permalinkRe: Contribute to Kissability: A Project...

    wordsmith1776

    Posted on: Sun, Nov 15 2009 2:14 AM

     Katherine, is the Kissability Project still going on? I'd like to contribute to the Survey (am legally blind)...

     

    Richard in Louisiana

  • permalinkRe: Contribute to Kissability: A Project...

    KatDucDuk

    Posted on: Tue, Nov 17 2009 11:04 AM

    Hi, Richard,

    I'm no longer actively soliciting responses to the questionnaire, but it's not too late for you to fill it out if you'd like. You'd bring my list of respondents up to an even 40! I'll send the links to you right now.

    --Katherine

    Katherine Duke
  • permalinkRe: Contribute to Kissability: A Project...

    wordsmith1776

    Posted on: Tue, Nov 17 2009 11:08 AM

     Katherine, you can send the links to me at wordsmith1776@yahoo.com

     

    Are  you by chance related to Mike Duke, director of the Radio Reading for the Blind

    in Mississippi, that I'm friends with? He's advising our S.W. Louisiana Radio Reading for the Blind on how we can start our efforts to broadcast to the blind/visually-impaired/print-challenged, as we are very new re: non-profit-status (2 years; see our site http://la-airs.org)....