Just Wondering.......

HUGS! I know all too well how you feel, and like you, I find it difficult to be friends with people who ignore the needs of their children.. Might as well be ostriches with their heads in the sand! Unfortunately, it is the children who will suffer in the long run. :-( Although my child does not have autism, we do deal with a myriad of issues. One of the things we did to help mediate temper and activity levels was an hour of vigorous exercise per day. This was recommended by our psychologist--it helps expend pent up energy, frustrations, and balances brain chemistry. We have a trampoline in our back yard for this purpose, and have done swimming (swim team), bike riding, running at the park, etc. At the park, I'd have my son run ahead a certain distance, then turn around and run back (I walked--I can't run due to issues with my knees). Things got MUCH better when we instituted the VIGOROUS exercise program... sleep, disposition, outbursts, etc. We also started using daily Omega-3 oils which also help with brain functioning. I don't know if that helps or not, but it is what helped us. Best Wishes!

You are definitely not alone...although I'm so sorry to hear that it feels like it right now. Although I avoid even using the word...It's NORMAL for Trey to put up the greatest resistance while you try to establish these new routines. What's equally important to nurturing him right now is also taking care of yourself. I know you're having a tough time finding friends who understand, but what are you doing to take care of yourself in the mean time?

You sound very lonely......I don't know what the answer to that is ! It will be satisfying to know that you've done the very best for your son........and I guess.......that's what you can know and accept. I know that's not much in the way of being able to share with someone.......but......you'll find a way that works for both yourself......and.....your son. You have my very best wishes for a happy outcome............peace and love......Norma

I wish you could find a support group of other parents who are going through similar experiences as you. Maybe a Google search? I know there are plenty of young people out there. My oldest son's best friend and his wife have an autistic son. Do you have a case manager? They may be able to provide some resources to you, even respite. Hang in there......you sound so dedicated to Trey. He's lucky to have you as a mom! Best Wishes to you!