Well, I figured I’d write a blog on sex since that is a sure fire guarantee to get hits. You know people are curious on what it would be like to have sex with a disabled person. I’m sure they’re wondering if we can handle the mustard. (No I’m not talking about anything kinky.) Because were often viewed as different, I’m quite sure that having sex with a disabled person would be thought of a different experience. The good part is that we don’t have to do as much except lay back and enjoy the ride (hee, hee, hee). I’ll take that. I got no pride.
It’s scary when you reach that point in your relationship when it’s “go time” and “show time.” Your partner is ready to hop in the sack and you’re focused on your disability. No matter how you slice and dice it you always have a lingering doubt if your partner will enjoy you -- if your “performance” will be up to par. Nobody wants to be the lousy lay.
These feelings cause anxiety and stress. Sometimes these feelings are so overwhelming that disabled people choose to forego any involvement in a relationship. Unfortunately, this leads to a limited life and as human beings we all want to be loved with all the perks that come with it. (I’m talking ‘bout sex, hee, hee,hee.)
A lot of people ask me if sex is still the same as it was before my accident. I say, “Hell no, the prices have gone way up!” You shouldn’t let your disability affect your intimacy. Your partner is with you for a reason – most likely because they like you (unless you have a lot of money – but you probably don’t because you’re disabled.) Life is very short and, most likely shorter for us, so don’t let your disability dictate your enjoyment and fulfillment in life. Have a cocktail and tear it up, my friend. It’s kinda fun!
