Being at peace and content with myself has become a top priority in my life. I have come to realize that in order for me to be happy with other people, I need to be at peace with myself first. So, what creates peace within me?
Exercising is my main therapy. I have found that if I don't exercise for a day or two, my sense of well-being diminishes. So, I exercise & push myself nearly every day. There are times when my body doesn't want to go any more, but my brain insists and wins out. Competing, regardless of the sport, gives me a high.
I also spend hours in my "shop" (aka garage) building handcycles and experimenting with new seating positions that will help individuals with various disabilities. I derive a lot of pleasure from designing and building. It keeps my mind in a positive state. Learning is like that.
The other day while training, I met this couple from the Ukraine. They were quite concerned with me being in a wheelchair and watched me open my truck door. They kept asking me if I needed help. I reassured them that I was fine, that I do this all the time. Finally, they felt comfortable approaching me. We had a wonderful, forty-five minute conversation in which I was able to explain about my background, my training & racing. They shared about their lives, as well. We all left enlightened and up-lifted from our exchange of cultures. This is an example of what makes me feel good, why I feel compelled to speak to others, to educate the public - either one on one or to large audiences - about disabilities.
My family is another area that makes me feel good. I am very lucky to have three wonderful kids, two daughters and a son. My wife leaves me speechless (in more ways than one!) We have been married for 16 years. Those of you that are married get my point.
I am very fortunate to have all that I have. And I look forward to the new experiences that lie just around the next corner or country.
Stay positive and stay strong,
Alejandro Albor
